If God so wills that I enter the Society of Jesus, I will never raise a family with a woman I have fallen in love with—this knowledge caused me great sorrow this past summer.I will always miss being a father, and while on silent retreat before the semester began, this sorrow was the focus of my prayer.
My spiritual director advised that I was “mourning the loss of a life [I] will never lead,” an insight which brought me a wonderful consolation and peace of mind. The nature of any commitment is such that in choosing one good, a person closes the opportunity to partake in any infinite number of other goods. In choosing the good of becoming a symbolic father to the faithful, I simultaneously eliminate the potential to become a biological father.
Link (here) to the full original article in the Georgetown Voice.